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Read the Purpose and Vision along with the outline and some excerpts: Purpose and vision:
The objective of this conference is to provide Christian husbands and wives, fathers and mothers of faith and grace with a new sense of God's-uncommon common sense-in all matters concerning love, sex and marriage. These are God's elements for overcoming our post modern moral crisis of love and marriage in America today and for generations to come! Saying we are Christians is an over simplification-we must be recipients of His gift of faith and grace-and live by the principles of His revealed Law-Word before the name Christian will mean anything to this lost, depraved and misguided generation! Husbands and Wives, Fathers and Mothers of faith and grace: These are those married couples-read one man and one woman-who have received God's gift of faith and who have committed their lives and their roles as parents to the grace of God. These couples are those who know that the future of their children is in jeopardy and that we are in a war for the control of that future! Sadly, the statistics of broken homes, divorces, adultery, domestic violence, drugs and promiscuity-to mention only some of the ills of our culture-are almost equally divided between "Christian" families and non-Christian families. This is unacceptable as a comparison and must change. Consequently, fathers and mothers of faith and grace are those-who are and or who will experience-God's promise of victory over these fruits of our fallen nature and live a marriage experience that captures the best of God's gifts of love, sex and romance in marriage. Daddy's Little Girl and Mommy's Little Boy brings us clear evidence of just how America's Christian couples can have this victory in their marriage and how to duplicate this success in their sons and daughters. "For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship; created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them." Eph. 2:8-10.
The Victories of Love versus the Problems of Love:
The romance that Marilyn and I started out with in our marriage was a by-product of the world's secular culture-the pursuit of all poets, romance writers, screen writers and novelists-not the gift of God. Such love is woefully inadequate to satisfy the longing heart and will never bring deep, lasting love with tender romance that lasts forever. At best it is a thoughtful expression of lust and at its worst it is a sick excuse for abuse but it is never-true love-that lasts forever. What God gave us after my willingness to believe and to act on his revealed truth that I was responsible for Marilyn's spiritual, moral and romantic success-yes me-her husband, was the revelation of what is true love and romance for her. I could no longer point the finger of blame at her nor could I seek answers for the discord in our relationship through changes that I thought she should make. I had to look to God to strengthen me and give me the wisdom and understanding to seek change within myself. The first thing I changed about me was my perspective of how and with what I would love Marilyn. Before it was all about my will and being right-now it was all about asking God for his perfect love to overflow in me so that the love I gave her would be from him, through him and by his power, to fulfill his good pleasure in her and in me. "For it is God which works in you both to will and to do his good pleasure." Philippians 2:13
Recapturing Virtue: For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, Romans 3:23: Statistically speaking it is quite probable that at least fifty percent or more of all individuals who read this book, whether a male or female will have fallen into the trap of secular wisdom and will be inwardly dealing with sexual sins and misconducts. Virtue once lost becomes a secret desire of almost all young men and ladies and even older, more mature men and women when they have fallen into this trap and followed the wisdom that proceeds from the hearts of stone of the secular world. Our new hearts that God has given us know better but we believe the lie of Satan rather than the truth He has revealed to us. Virtue is so easily surrendered and lost, yet, so unimaginable to regain. Once virtue has been sacrificed on the altar of promiscuity, it is only a matter of time before all realize the benefits anticipated are not, forthcoming. This brings remorse and a sense of being used to men and women, young or old. They know it was a bad choice, but they are not sure the alternatives of today's world offer anything better. They are not sure they can recapture their virtue, or how to go about it, even if they are brave enough to try. They need new insight and new direction. Breaking Old Habits:
Change is said to be stressful, well when things really become a habit-a really old habit-establishing ourselves into new patterns of life is not easy. In order to break old habits and make a break from the incorrect perceptions which led to those habits, we must do a minimum of just two things. First we must have a change of attitude. Secondly, we must have access to what is correct. It's exactly like navigation. If we become lost or disoriented while sailing at sea, we must first admit that we are lost, and then secondly we can review our actions and understanding of our map, in order to set a new course. Navigation - The Key to a Successful Journey: Life is a type of navigation. If you make a small error in your heading and do not correct it, the error will compound in its effect to take you off the course that otherwise would have taken you to your desired destination. If one does not make constant checks and course corrections the trip is doomed to disaster. As husbands/fathers and wives/mothers of faith and grace we have certain inner desires which we want to fulfill. You may not know how to describe just what it is you hope to accomplish or just exactly what is the main goal or destiny of your life, but you are conscious that there is a longing and a yearning for personal fulfillment which burns in your breast. As in navigation, life works better when we have a map. The map is admittedly only a piece of colored paper. It is not the trip, or the oceans or the sky that it represents, but a record of the experiences of the many that have made the trip before us. Consequently, it gives us a feeling of comfort and security to look at the map. We can see where the reefs and the mountains are and which ones might sink our fragile craft. We can see where the obstacles are that others have seen with their own eyes because they have been there. If you think God's revealed truth of Right and Wrong is too cumbersome and unwieldy to be practical, then you might think that it is also too cumbersome and unwieldy to use a map. It is true that you can attempt the trip without the map-maps are an option-but wisdom dictates that trips without maps are foolhardy! The most important map of life is God's map! Given the state of affairs of the moral decay and the loss of leadership in our families today, it is obvious that many men and women have decided to make the trip without the advantage of God's map. Let's Talk - Communication Between the Sexes: How many times does the husband just-KNOW-that he told his sweet wife to do this or that and really didn't? Or how many times does the wife just-KNOW-that she told her wonderful husband to do this or that and really didn't? When I make this mistake I often can remember in my mental vision just how it was with great detail-all to no avail-because I didn't do what I thought I did. Poor wife, not always was I able to see through my blindness as well as I do now. Oh yes-I'm still making the mistake-it's just that I'm quick to rethink it correctly when she says-"What did you say?" Remember it is not what we are thinking that is actually being transmitted, only God has the luxury of being perfect in the ability to say and communicate exactly what he is thinking. For us-His creation-it is a constant challenge. Imperfect-yes-almost always, but without it what hope would we have for our lives? We would be as limited as the animals. Unlike the hard wired communication of instinct, God has given us the opportunity to communicate and to experience and do so much more-to reflect Him-to be his image! Nothing is as humbling as are our efforts to communicate between the sexes. Reigning With Christ:
"But now Christ is risen from the dead, and has become the first fruits of those who have fallen asleep. For since by man came death, by Man also came the resurrection of the dead. For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ all shall be made alive. But each one in his own order: Christ the first fruits, afterward those who are Christ's at His coming. Then comes the end, when He delivers the kingdom to God the Father, when He puts an end to all rule and all authority and power. For He must reign: till He has put all enemies under His feet. The last enemy that will be destroyed is death. For: 'He has put all things under His feet.' But when He says 'all things are put under Him,' it is evident that He who put all things under Him is excepted. Now when all things are made subject to Him, then the Son Himself will also be subject to Him who put all things under Him that God may be all in all. I Cor. 15:20-28. Structuring Our Love and Sexual Relationship:
"There are three things which are too wonderful for me, yes, four which I do not understand: The way of an eagle in the air: The way of a serpent on a rock: The way of a ship in the midst of the sea: And the way of a man with a virgin." Proverbs 30:18.
In this chapter we will learn much about structuring our sexual and love relationship from these few verses. Unfortunately it will come as a surprise to those who do not read their Bible regularly from cover to cover, that SEX and PASSION between a wife and her husband is the only subject in the entire Bible to which a complete book is dedicated! If you have been taught that-sex and passion-was a subject to be treated with less respect and honor than say the subject of-faith and grace-you do the math. I say it is unfortunate because if we Christians had been giving the same respect and honor to the subject of sex and passion as-we say-that we give to faith and grace, our walk in both-as a Christian culture-would have been much superior in quality than it obviously has been! "All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work." II Timothy 3:16-17
Structuring Our Children's Environment:
"If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons: for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live? For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness. Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it." Hebrews 12:7-11. The locus of moral fiber, values and principles for the family:
Establishing moral fiber, values and principles is very important in our role as father! Much to the chagrin of the radical left there are origins to moral fiber, values and principles-absolute origins-not by concession among men but from God. We will direct our discovery of these absolutes into two sections: Part I, The Origins and Part II Discipline. Part I - The Origins:
The differences between the sexes are unique. God has made a woman to be a mother and in so doing, he has established-a barrier beyond which we men cannot climb over-and experience what it is to be a mother. Being a mother is a unique role with unique experiences. And being the family role model and disciplinarian is not one of them . She can be a supporter of the structure and does play-a very important role-in giving this support to her husband. Yet, if she tries to assume the full responsibility as family role model and disciplinarian, she will fail to accomplish what the father could have accomplished; if he had not abdicated his God-given role. In like fashion, God has gifted men with special insight and strength of character distinctively appropriate for establishing moral fiber, values and principles for his family. In spite of their arduous efforts to the contrary, women are not gifted in the same way. There is a barrier over which they cannot climb and assume the role of father, anymore than we men can assume successfully the role of mother. However, we men can very successfully delegate many aspects of our role as disciplinarian to our wife. We will talk more about this later, but I want women to know that they can be effective in discipline when they do it with and according to their husband's delegated authority. "My son, hear the instruction of your father, and do not forsake the law of your mother; for they will be a graceful ornament on your head, and chains about your neck." Proverbs 1:8-9.
"My son, keep your father's command, and do not forsake the law of your mother. Bind them continually upon your heart; Tie them around your neck. When you roam, they will lead you; when you sleep, they will keep you; and when you awake, they will speak with you. For the commandment is a lamp, and the law a light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress." Proverbs 6:20-24.
"The eye that mocks his father, and scorns obedience to his mother, the ravens of the valley will pick it out, and the young eagles will eat it." Proverbs 30:17.
Part II - Discipline: "Thorns and snares are in the way of the perverse; he who guards his soul will be far from them. Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:5-6.
True love and discipline are inseparable:
Discipline is a gift from God. Discipline is the deciding factor in creating a good, healthy, supportive and emotionally stable environment for our family. Moral fiber, values, principles and a good self-image are as impossible without structure and discipline, as trying to pour concrete without forms. Fathers are gifted with natural abilities to be good disciplinarians, but we need some good counsel from those who have proven abilities. How a father goes about establishing his role as disciplinarian will have a great effect on his image as Hero and Knight in shining armor.
Discipline is a bad word for many, but in reality it is quite a good word. The word discipline comes from the word "disciple" or "student". In other words one who learns is a "disciple" and therefore one who is in the process of learning is being "discipled" or "disciplined". It is impossible to learn anything without discipline. Discipline is a fundamental part of our expression of love and protection for each family member. We discipline because we love. Those fathers who won't or don't accept their proper role as the one in charge of family discipline and its structure, are abdicating their role in one of the most important expressions of love. For your greatest ever romance, sex love and marriage renewal experience enroll for this diamond among diamonds conference. Check out the locations and dates near you. See: Conference Schedules
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